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Happily Ever After – Starts Now! – Our April Challenge!
This is My Daily Journal and today is Monday – April 2, 2018 and we’re going to talk about making love last thru the ages – now WHAT could be BETTER than THAT?
Where ever you are in your marriage or serious long term relationship – Happily Ever After – starts NOW!!! And I’m going to tell you how one of you – can bring the two of you – together.
Remember back in the days of dating – ?
Remember the weak knees and butterflies – ?
Remember how just holding hands – just sent chills down your spine 
?
Well – BREAKING NEWS – THAT was FALLING in love – and living happily ever after – and making love last – is totally different
I have a quote in my files that we’ve used in relationship blogs – and it says something like this – :
When you fall in Love – it’s a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then – it subsides. And then when it subsides – you have to make a decision –
You have to work out whether your roots have become so deeply entwined together that it is inconceivable that you could ever part –
OR if the two of you have become so distant – you can go your separate ways –
OR EVEN – just live under one roof – making the best of whatever –
Vintage Love is not chills down the spine and breathlessness – weak knees and butterflies.
THAT is what it’s like to ‘be’ ‘IN love’.
Lasting – forever after vintage love – is so much different – but absolutely priceless in it’s own way.
True and everlasting vintage love – – – the kind of love that will last a life time – is what’s left over – when the new wears off of a romance and the excitement of ‘being in love’ has kind of died down.
How do you restore a bond – that has some possible deep cracks in it?
You do it one little act of thoughtfulness after the other – one day at a time.
SO our challenge for April is restoring “The Lost Art of Living Happily Ever After” – and assuring that at the end of your journey – you get to the end of that line – with the same person you got in that line with – and with a love still deeper than the deepest ocean.
Remember the thoughtfulness you showed during your dating years that pulled that person so close to you? Well do some of those same thoughtful things now – daily!
Remember those sweet words you spoke – and those little notes you left – and simple little things – that set you apart from all the rest? Well start doing those simple little things again now!
One of the greatest gifts on any of my days – is when we’re just doing whatever in the canyon – and that can be working a flower bed – or any number of a gazillion chores – and I raise up to look over at Geezer – and he’s already looking at me – smiling. Do you KNOW how priceless that is? To have that kind of bond after 55 years?
AND anyone can have it. But you can’t have it if your life is all about YOU – lol
OR if you are so mindless – you just take a relationship for granted. A lasting relationship takes work – but it’s some of the grandest work – you will ever do …
And you can’t have it if you let boredom set in – or if you’re a picky person and you nit pick at every little thing.
SO – starting today – April 2, 2018 – let’s all – including me – see just how much improvement we can make in our relationships in just one month.
SO – do simple little random acts of kindness for that love of your life.
When we had our 50th anniversary in 2017 – a man at church asked me after church that day – “If you don’t mind me asking – what did you get each other for your 50th anniversary?” I said “We don’t do gifts for anniversaries – we go out to supper – plan a special TV night with an old movie DVD I’ve usually bought from amazon – or watch a few episodes of Mentalist or Columbo – and it’s a done deal.” We have “each other’ – what in the world more – could we possibly WANT?”
He said “WOW – My wife and I have only been married 45 years and she’s been telling me for 3 years – about the big diamond she wants for our 50th.”
Jewelry – fancy this or that – or material things don’t mean a hill of beans to us – and I don’t mean that in any kind of arrogant way. But material things are not what makes ‘the Geezer and the Katydid – tick” – – – We just love being together – working together – relaxing in the porch swings together – just like our ancestors did – when there wasn’t so many ‘shiny things’ to attract people’s attention and take their money … and life was more about ‘their life and their bond.’
Just a few years ago – Geezer had a weed eating accident and threw an old piece of rusty barbed wire into his leg.
He came in the house and we boiled it out – put on some antibiotic cream – bandaged it and thought we had it licked. Did the same that night after his shower. But next morning he got up with a huge infection in that leg and a red streak.
We headed to Dr Patel’s immediately – who took one look and admitted him straight into the hospital – because he thought it was MRSA.
I stayed all day – and wanted to stay the night but he was insisting I go home and come back at 7 the next morning.
We have ALWAYS stayed with family – that was in the hospital 24/7 – or “I” have .. lol – even if the situation was not really critical – so I wanted to stay with HIM.
But at his insistence – I headed to the canyon at 10pm that first night. I was putting my key in the door to come in the house and my cell dinged and it was Geezer – and his tx just said “Come Back” –
I didn’t even go in the house – I just got back in the car and headed back to the hospital
He was in there 5 days – and I stayed with him the whole time – except for running home on day 3 to take a quick shower and change.
Now THAT is a BOND!! AND one side of this priceless bond – belongs to an old GEEZER … lol
I try to keep my errands to one day a week – because leaving this canyon is one of my least favorite things to do .. lol
And on errand day – I’m usually gone – about 4 hours – groceries – post office – gas car – run by and see Kim and Kev – Dollar Store – Dollar Tree – etc.
During that one time out a week – and gone only 4 hours – I will usually get a couple tx’s from Geezer just asking “U OK?” I LOVE that!!!
It’s April 2nd and if you’re doing this challenge with me – we’re all already – one day behind … lol
The best time to tell and show your spouse you love them – is before someone else does
Peace and just oodles of love – coming to all of you – from Round Knob Canyon